Archive for January, 2010

Review: The Well-Behaved Child

A couple of months ago a friend of mine at church pulled me aside and asked me what we were doing about a certain behavior with one of our children.  She asked me this because at a particular function she noticed how I was correcting our child.  My attitude, approach, and solution made her stop me and ask me where I learned how to do that.  She wanted to learn to do that too.  With a note of frustration she flatly said, “I don’t know what to do!”  I told her (drum roll please) she needed The Well-Behaved Child by John Rosemond.

What parent has not been there?  Before having kids, I managed big projects for big companies.  We adopted both of our kids and when my wife asked how many we should get I guess I thought we were ordering puppies.  ”Ah, let’s get two and get it over with,” I said.  ”It’s only kids, anyway, how hard can it be?”  Oh how dumb and naive I was (and am)!  Parenting is the toughest job in the world and you need the courage to do what my friend did and ask “how?”

When you have finally decided you don’t know what to do (which is everyone), then buy this book.  Then give a copy to a friend.  I am a Rosemond-ite now.  Please understand we’re not there yet.  Our kids are not sitting (every) meal calmly commenting to each other on what a nice day it is in their neatly starched trousers.  BUT, having a plan of attack greatly reduces the stress and gives a little hope for tomorrow.  Rosemond will help you develop a plan to correct specific behaviors.  This book is an easy read.  He’s funny.  The principles are clear.  And you will feel empowered and free to be the parent you need to be.  Stop trying all the new-fangled, whiz-bang ideas and get Rosemond’s book.  You won’t be disappointed.

What’s the top three behaviors you would like to change in your child(ren)?

Review: Obstacles Welcome

I appreciate a good book describing a person’s story on how they “made it” in this world, particularly from a businessman’s point of view.  I think I know a good business book when I see one because of my own 20 years of experience and education in business.  That’s why I recommend Obstacles Welcome. Ralph de la Vega describes his inspiring story coming to America alone as a child from Cuba.  By escaping Communist Cuba and living hand-to-mouth for several years, De la Vega learned the value of hard work, excellence, and salesmanship.  These qualities – and more – are described in his life-story in Obstacles Welcome.
I recommend this book for what it will do to inspire and challenge you to never quit.  There are some subtle lessons for managers and managing well but those are not as clear as perhaps they could have been.  De la Vega wants to communicate some principles of management and leadership but there are few nuts-and-bolts techniques here.  That might be okay since he works in a highly specialized area (telecommunications).   Don’t let that stop you, however, from reading about his life and what drives him.  Some of us who have not had to scrap the way he has will find a measure of gratefulness for our families and a heightened sense of patriotism for our country.  It is a good reminder for those days when you wonder why you do what you do.
Who taught you what you do now?  When have you thanked those who helped make you successful?

Does God hate Haiti?

Read this post from Al Mohler if you’re concerned about Haiti and the situation there.  Did God judge Haiti?

http://www.albertmohler.com/2010/01/14/does-god-hate-haiti/

The Butterfly Circus

How do people see you?  Watch this.

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I am a singles minister at FBC Trussville. I benefitted greatly from a vibrant singles group earlier in my life and my desire to try to foster that here. This blog contains perspectives on scripture, life, nature, and God.